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You like her, you have met and you havealready started contacting her however, there is a question among you two because what troubles you is that she never communicates first.
I am Christos from Men Of Style and today we will talk about: Why does she never communicate first? Let's go! First of all, in order to be able to clarifywhy she never communicates first we will need to look at some very important parameters.
The first parameter is about the locationof your contact or your relationship.
To give you a better understanding of what I want to say.
The beginning plays a very important role inyour communication, in your relationship and if she communicates first.
I want you to imagine that there isa line, there is a straight line with some very specific time intervals.
The first time interval is fromyour meeting to the first date the communication that will take place from thefirst moment you meet until the first date.
Then is the communication from thefirst date until the second date and then we have the communicationthat will be established from the second date and onwards.
So remember, from the moment you meet up to the first date obviously you communicate first to arrange to go out.
If you expect the woman to contact you first to assign a date you can sit alone at home like a bumper and never go out.
Why; Because the woman needs to feel comfortableto start communicating with you.
Once you go for the first date and everythingwill be well, you will not end up fighting and there is a chemistry between you, an erotic attraction but also interest for your characters, towards each other You will have to, after about three to four days to communicate first to assign a second date.
So, remember that from the first moment of the acquaintance up to the second date, it is you who willprimarily activate the communication.
So remember, after the second, at most after the third date the woman will feel comfortable tostart communicating with you.
But let's now look at the other three parameters.
The second parameter includes two subcategories: The first is how easy it is for you two to meet and the second is how she responds when youusually communicate, when you send her an SMS.
In the first subcategory, which is abouthow easy it is for you two to meet when you communicate first and the woman is receptive and generally adjusts her schedule you adjust your schedule and you meet then even if she does not communicate first, it is no problem.
But if you see that you always communicate first and the woman has a problem with her schedule once she can not make it, once she avoids, once she wants, once she cancels it then there is a problem, there is a problemnot only that you communicate first and invest in meeting more than her but there is a problem in not meeting, whichis perfectly reasonable and practical.
You can not be constantly sending messages first: “What's up;”, “What are you doing;”, “How are you;”, “I am happy we talked!” “We had fun, we should meet again”, and shedoes not send first then there is a problem.
But when you see that woman responds at first you meet her, it is not difficult to arrange a date while at the same time you send first, thenkeep the communication in the basics.
That is, when you want to communicate with her, keep it on the typical level, on a loose level and just suggested her to meet her on a date.
As time passes, the more it will feelcomfortable to tell them again and at the same time, and over timeshe will start sending first.
The second subcategory is about how she responds.
What does this mean; For example, when you send a message it does matter very much on how fast the woman will answer but also what kind of message she will send.
If every time you send a message it takes her a day to answer or she also sends, answers, responds but sends two lines just to keep a formality, then this is not so typical.
So, once again, keep on the back of your mind that if you see that the woman's response is delayed or she does not invest as much withinthe message to ask you something “What are you doing;”, “How are you?”, keyquestions that show if she is interested even in basic form about your interests or your everyday life then you should just suggest and ask to meet her inthe nearest future, and then you will see the rest.
The third parameter is how often you meet.
If you meet one or two times a week at most then it is not bad to send her a message once a week or to call her to see what is she doingor to see how her daily routine rolls.
But if you meet every day, do not send her every day to see what is she doing, how isshe, when did she go to a toilet when she met her friends, how did she goto work, what did she eat, how she slept because if we are in the beginning, there is a chanceto push and frighten her, to make her nervous.
So if you see that you meet everyday or too often within the week and that you want to send her every day, do notthink that she will feel comfortable with it on the contrary, there is the possibilityof pushing her even further at the same time you show that you are given and desperate because you are in a hurry to move the things forward.
If from the beginning of your contact and relationshipyou start to communicate every day all day then this thing will begin to createsome restrictive conditions and restrictive frameworks and after some time or some months and if everything goes well and your relationship rolls it will be as if you wanted to give her areport or ask her to provide a report.
And finally we are dealing with thefourth parameter that is about how often you communicate first.
So if you combine the three parameters I said before then you will understand that if you keep communicating first not just to ask what is she doing or tostart building a communication between you but you are the one who suggests first to go out then you make her afraid, to feel pressure and to leave.
At the same time, you should alsoallow the woman to show interest or as we say, it is not bad to claim, butgive her the room to claim you as well to express interest, not necessarily to ask you to go out but after some time it is necessaryfor the woman to start sending first because it is a very important sign of interest.
I am Christos from Men Of Styleand today we talked about: Why does she never communicate first? Take care!.