Many of you ask me to talk about themen who get all the women or about men who have some naturalability or natural talent with women.
So I decided to make this video and to convey to you the personal experience I had through the great friendship with somemen who were really good with women.
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I am Christos from Men Of Style and today we will talk about the characteristicsof men who are talented with women.
Let's go! First of all, I want to clarify that: Several years ago, when I decidedto improve in the part of flirting I had the luck and the misfortune tohave a great friendship with some men who literally had a physical comfort, had a “talent” In communicating and flirting with women and to be honest, especially in theearly years, especially in the early time when I saw them flirting, I thought they hada voodoo doll and were putting pins into it and the women talked to them withpassion and that was quite irritating.
However, what I want to convey is what I saw was a science fiction for me it does not mean that it wasscience fiction for them too.
There is a huge difference between two realities.
One reality is trying to flirt and taking sublingual pills to avoid a heart attack and the other reality is to flirt, to enjoy the flirt and the most important, to expressyourself in a way that satisfies you.
So when I saw these men flirting I thought they did something magical.
Apparently, what was happening was that my own level, based on my own experienceand my own communication skills was at a very long distance from what I saw in them.
Of course, the characteristics Isaw in these men are too many.
However, what I want to convey toyou, is what impressed the most some features that were mainlyabout the way of thinking and not so much about specific behaviors.
For example, what I noticed was that I would never hear themtalk badly about women I never heard them to blame women, swearingon them or talking about them deceptively.
Also, as strange as it could seem to me, they never spoke about their successes.
They did not say: I did this with thatgirl and did that with another.
Obviously, they did not need to do so because they had proved that theywanted to prove to themselves so they did not need to prove anything to others.
Another feature was the criteria they had.
For them, the number one criteriawas never the appearance even though on several occasions the womenwho were next to them were quite handsome the number one feature for them wasthe behavior and the character.
They did not tolerate the rude behaviorsor as we say B behaviors because they wanted their communicationwith women to be of high quality.
However, there is a very specific characteristic, which I will not tell you yet but it is also what, I think, made all the difference.
But let's look at some more, which are just as important.
One of the main characteristics I wantto mention is the appearance.
First of all, yet, many of these peoplewith whom I had a friendship had the appearance, but they did not all havethe appearance that we imagined.
They did not made other’s heads toturn around for them, while walking.
They had an appearance just above the average.
However, even though they did notspend the entire day at the gym and it were not in front of themirror the entire day, saying: Wow, you are a handsome guy.
No, they were not doing that.
Every one of them took care of their appearanceand of a well-groomed style.
So what I want to mention isthe number one characteristic which impressed me the most, it was therelationship they had with the rejection.
But before I mention this characteristic I want to say something that is mostlikely have came up to your mind and many people ask me that: “To be successful with women you have to beBad Boy?”, “Do you need to be a bad boy?” The answer is no.
I had a great friendship with peoplewho had bad boys' features but they were not bad boys.
You do not have to be a bad boy toget what you want with women or to flirt successfully.
Because many times we thinkthat having some behaviors which are bad – is attractive, that is not true! And now comes the time of revelation.
Previously, in the past, and youmight have the same conviction.
I thought that the men who have some talent or some natural fluency with women, are never being rejected.
But when I started being friendswith such people, such men I realized that what was happeningwas exactly the opposite.
However, the relationship they had with the rejectionwas completely different from the one I had.
First of all they were never afraid of rejection.
The second was, that their relationship with therejection was not a relationship of love or hate.
It was just neutral a relationship.
Even though they were rejected quite often and some of the specific menwith whom we were friends were objectively quite handsome, but theywere also getting rejected and quite a lot.
What I want to mention is that forthem there was no rejection.
When they being rejected, theydid not take it personally they did not blame themselves or the womanfor the reasons that caused the rejection and the most important theydid remain troubled for hours what else could be done, that it was their fault that this is how women are andthat is why they were rejected.
No, for them, the rejection was justa fact, they did not criticize it Of course, that gave them a very big advantage.
Because when you experience onlypleasure and you get no pain then obviously, you become better, becauseyou always get a positive feedback thereby boosting your self-esteem and self-confidence.
For example, when we get rejected and we say: “Wow, she rejected me because I am ugly!””She rejected me because that is how the women are!” At that moment you are experiencing a pain.
The next time you want to flirt again this pain will come up again in your mind and in most cases you will tryto avoid a possible rejection simply, to not feel again the pain thatyou have experienced in the past.
These men did not feel pain from rejection.
Instead, they enjoyed everymoment of the flirting process and mainly, this is another characteristic.
They did not want only to flirt, theyenjoyed communicating with women they liked talking to women, whetherthey were flirting or not.
However, even though they had masculine features they were never afraid to show any eroticinterest if they really liked the woman.
So, when a rejection came and in most casesI was in front of them when they were rejected for them, nothing had happened it was like telling them:” Yannis, the timehas passed, maybe you want to leave? ” It was one and the same, there was no difference.
Of course this did not affect them, so every time they wanted to flirt they simply had the ability to concentrateon what they want and how to express it as a result, constantly increasing their chances to do something with a woman they like.
The most important thing that I wouldlike you to keep from today's video and especially if you are of a youngerage, it is that you can see some people who will have some amazing resultsor do something effortless.
However, this does not mean thatyou have to compare with them.
We have to compare ourselves only with the next step we need to do and not something that for us seemsto be as tall as Everest for example.
Certainly there are some people who have some talents either in basketball or in football, in ping-pong or in cooking or to communicate with people or women.
But this does not mean that, firstly, we have to meet the specific criteria which these people also have, or to blame ourselves for the reasons that led us in this position.
When you constantly compareyourself to what others are doing you will not be able to place your owncriteria on what it means to be successful that means, in our case, to flirt as you really want.
Surely there are some people who havesome natural talent in something but practice and experience is the most decisive.
The way you are trying to evolve the dedication and the way you want to improve is much more important than any existing talent.
Talent is just a basis, everything else comes with dedication, commitment and of course, hard work.
So, if you see people and youthink they get all the women which I personally think this isone to four – five percent of the entire population of men on the planet.
I think it is excessive, no mandoes get all the woman.
But that is my personal point of view.
So, if you think there are some men who are very good and you compare yourself with these specificmen, then you get sabotaged by that.
The point is, what is the next step to make you try flirting as you want.
Because it may seem like a mountain, and in fact it may not be.
I am Christos from Men Of Style and today we talked about the characteristicsof men who are talented with women.